A year ago was my second ever blog post: Resolutions. At that time, I was still writing for myself and had not yet shared publicly my 2012 resolution to use my experiences doctoring to be a better mom. A year later I can say that I have honored that resolution and use my daily experiences in the office to inspire and guide my parenting decisions and reactions. I am definitely a better mom as a result.
This year I have been thinking a lot about what my resolution should be, and now I have a much broader audience to hold me to it.
Parenting a toddler makes you feel powerless. It’s hard to predict when the next tantrum will strike, what food will end up in his mouth or on the floor, and how quickly he will learn new skills (like jumping off the stairs). Our parenting approach is often a tag-team effort, meant to give one of us a break while the other keeps our toddler alive. While we each get quality time with our son, we end up seeing less of each other.
On vacation with family for the holidays, my husband turned to me on day 3 and said, “Oh hey, how are you? I feel like I haven’t seen you.” This is representative of our lives currently, where we see each other all the time, but we aren’t actually connecting due to the many interruptions of life. In the process of becoming better employees, homeowners, and parents, we have become worse spouses. So it became obvious that my 2013 resolution should be to work as hard at being a wife as I do at being a mom. These roles should be complimentary and not contradictory. Reflecting back to the lessons learned in 2012, I’ll listen to the advice I’ve given many parents: a cohesive team of loving parents will lead to a happier toddler and teach him valuable lessons about relationships as he begins to navigate his own.
What’s your 2013 resolution?